Go ahead. Take a shot at it. Stumped? OK. I'll give you a hint. Money isn't one of them.
The idea that money, or financial security, is one of the pillars of happiness has been brought to us by the same people who gave us the current financial collapse: investment companies. They have had a very good reason to sell us on the idea that having lots of money for retirement is the key to security (i.e., happiness).
By focusing on creating a large stash of cash, we are led to ignore the very things that bring us happiness. Studies show that many people who have focused on their career and making abundant money for retirement die on the average of three years after retirement. They die friendless, bitter, lonely, and suffering from poor health. They sacrificed everything for job and retirement and, in the end, they lose everything.
Some studies suggest that retirement is the problem. Retirement is not the problem. Living for job and money exclusively before retirement is the problem.
So, what are the four pillars of happiness? Ralph Warner wrote Get a Life: You Don't Need a Million to Retire Well. This is one of the most valuable books I have read. It came bundled for free with my Turbo Tax DVD. I figured that I should read up on ways to fund retirement so I began reading the book. The financial planning for retirement part of the book took up the last few chapters. By far the largest part of the book dealt with the four pillars for successful retirement.
Warner spent nearly twenty five years interviewing successfully retired people, those who had achieved happiness in their later years. He found that they all had four things in common in their lives, four areas that they had paid attention to long before they retired.
All right, already. So what are they? Take a minute to think about this for yourself. What do you see as the most important aspects of your life? Ponder this and write them down before you go on. I'll wager that most of you will get this right if you just use common sense and let your mind go free.
OK. Here they are:
1. Health
Health is one of the first things we ignore when we are driven to succeed in our careers. Who has time for exercise and recreation? Anyway, my job provides good health insurance so I can always pop medicine to control my blood pressure and have the doc fix me up if something goes wrong. Onward and upward, climbing the ladder of success into the wonderland of retirement.
Wrong approach. Health requires constant attention throughout our lives. Stress is probably the number one killer. Achieving and keeping good health is one of the best ways to deal with stress. As we grow older, our health becomes even more important. If we suffer from poor health, we may end up in a nursing home the last years of our lives.
2. Family
Family is another dispensable while climbing the corporate ladder or making a career successful. Family means a lot more than just having dinner together a few times a week. Family is the most fundamental institution in every society in the world. Family includes the relationship between husband and wife. That alone requires great wisdom and diligence to nurture and prosper. Then throw in the children! I have often wished that each child would come with a instruction manual showing which buttons NOT to push!
Family includes the extended family of grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins and nephews. The support of the extended family is a key component for happiness.
3. Friends
Friends, real friends--not just people we associate with through work--are crucial for happiness. Not that friends at work are unimportant. We may develop real friendships at work that go far beyond the requirements of the work place. Friends are those that we can share our life's secretes with, our ideas and thoughts, our successes and failures. Friends see us for who we are and still love us!
Here is the humdinger. It is not just friends that we need. As we grow into our 50s and 60s and beyond, we need to have younger friends. Why younger friends? Because friends our own age begin to die off as we grow older and, before we know it, we are alone. That holds true for our parents, brother's and sister's, aunts and uncles, and cousins. Unless we strike up friendships with the younger generation, we will find ourselves alone and bitter.
4. Interests
Pursuing interests is often one of the casualties of career building and creating that treasure chest for retirement. Who has time for hobbies when work requires 60 to 80 hours a week, including commuting, coming in early and leaving late, and working weekends. Yet hobbies, interests, service projects, organizations, common interest clubs and so forth are a key to a happy life, before and after retirement.
Passionate interests become all the more important if we lose our spouse or our family lives far away. Warner calls this "Loving Life." That is an excellent phrase for this key pillar. A passionate interest is the kind of activity that totally engrosses us. It can be a recreation, a religious community, a hobby, a service dedication and so forth. Loving Life. Yes, indeed, that has to be the cherry on the top of the hot fudge sundae!
Health, Friends, Family, and Interests
So, there they are. The four pillars of the happy life. We would be foolish to ignore money. Yet we would be far more foolish to sacrifice health, family, friends, and passionate interests for money. When we love life, we light up with joy and bring happiness to those around us.
Monday, December 25, 2023
Thursday, December 7, 2023
Can't We All Just Get Along?
--George Washington, Farewell Address, 1796
George Washington knew the animosity of party all too well. By the time that he finished his term as the first president of the United States , Washington had had more than his fill of vile attacks upon his person through the print media.
Tuesday, November 21, 2023
A Child (and Beauty Queen) Shall Lead Them
Sometimes it takes an innocent child to show us the way. That or a beauty queen.
We have been witnessing a bizarre phenomena. Men have been seeking to marry men. And women have been seeking to marry women. Although the opposition to the campaign to legalize those marriages has been intense, there is actually little to worry about from such a movement.
It is a self-extinguishing movement, like medieval monasticism. Since the movement can not be advanced through childbirth, each married couple will end with itself. The only means of perpetuation through children comes from adoption, which is the way the movement of lovers of like sex seek to follow.
Yet, the reason for intense opposition to those who hold the traditional marriage as the only marriage sanctioned by God is easy to understand. The movement of lover's of like sex is an ideological movement. During the past couple decades, it has stepped out of the closet into the halls of government. People who have achieved respectable positions proclaim their love of like sex to all the world, advocating that as the best way to marry.
Why has this bizarre phenomena happened? What in the world would make wonderful people chose to perform such a perverted act? Actually, God inspired it. How in the world could that be? Why would God inspire an act that goes contrary to the universal principles of nature and life?
We can find the answer in Carl Jung, the Swiss psychoanalyst whom Freud had picked to carry on his theory. That is, until Jung proclaimed a belief in spiritual reality. At that point Freud pushed him away with a fury. There is no place for God or spirituality in Freud's thinking. God is a neurosis as far as he is concerned. Freud stood shoulder to shoulder with Marx and Darwin in denying God.
What can we find in Jung that would explain the revolting phenomena of like loving like, man loving man and woman loving women? Jung taught that each of us is feminine (anima), and masculine (animus). Women have a greater portion of anima and men have a greater measure of animus. Until recently, to be a woman has meant to embrace feminine characteristics and deny masculine characteristics. Likewise with men. To be a man has meant to embrace the masculine characteristics and deny the feminine characteristics.
We have entered a new age, the age of integration of anima and animus, feminine and masculine, within each one of us. God has put the urge into our hearts for each woman to integrate her masculine qualities and each man to integrate his feminine qualities.
What are the feminine qualities? Some of them are nurturing, sensitivity, spiritual awareness, unconditional love, taking care of the home, raising children, nurse others to health, teach, be beautiful, and be supportive. What are the masculine qualities? A partial list includes not showing pain, acting strong, keeping commitments, bringing home the pay check, punishing the children, taking the boys fishing, never crying, being the leader, being adventurous, performing physically difficult tasks, and working with math and science.
Jung said that we have moved from the age of three to the age of four, into the age of integration, the age of fulfillment. The problem is that the old age seldom easily gives way to the new age. It resists and tries to obstruct the new age. When a woman feels the urge to manifest her masculine qualities, her animus, society admonishes her, "be a woman." Likewise for the man. When a man feels the urge to give play to his anima, society blares back, "be a man!"
That leaves women and men in a pickle. The woman who experiences society's stonewalling determines to be true to her self and her God, over reacts in manifesting her masculine qualities, leading her to believe that she is a man. Likewise with the man. He feels society stonewalling his urge to manifest his feminine aspect, over reacts and believes that he is a woman.
A 12 year old boy, ChristianU2uber, provoked a maelstrom of denunciations for standing up for traditional marriage and saying marriage between like sexes is wrong. Carrie Prejean settled for runner up by standing for traditional marriage in the Miss USA contest. They are right and courageous. Marriage between like sexes is wrong and traditional marriage is right. Yet we need to go one step further and stand for the spirit of the times, to become integrated, whole people.
Since we know that loving the like sex is unnatural and will lead to extinction if we all did that, we know that this movement will fail. But we must not fail to integrate our anima and animus in each of us, to become whole persons, whole men and whole women. That movement must and will succeed.
We have been witnessing a bizarre phenomena. Men have been seeking to marry men. And women have been seeking to marry women. Although the opposition to the campaign to legalize those marriages has been intense, there is actually little to worry about from such a movement.
It is a self-extinguishing movement, like medieval monasticism. Since the movement can not be advanced through childbirth, each married couple will end with itself. The only means of perpetuation through children comes from adoption, which is the way the movement of lovers of like sex seek to follow.
Yet, the reason for intense opposition to those who hold the traditional marriage as the only marriage sanctioned by God is easy to understand. The movement of lover's of like sex is an ideological movement. During the past couple decades, it has stepped out of the closet into the halls of government. People who have achieved respectable positions proclaim their love of like sex to all the world, advocating that as the best way to marry.
Why has this bizarre phenomena happened? What in the world would make wonderful people chose to perform such a perverted act? Actually, God inspired it. How in the world could that be? Why would God inspire an act that goes contrary to the universal principles of nature and life?
We can find the answer in Carl Jung, the Swiss psychoanalyst whom Freud had picked to carry on his theory. That is, until Jung proclaimed a belief in spiritual reality. At that point Freud pushed him away with a fury. There is no place for God or spirituality in Freud's thinking. God is a neurosis as far as he is concerned. Freud stood shoulder to shoulder with Marx and Darwin in denying God.
What can we find in Jung that would explain the revolting phenomena of like loving like, man loving man and woman loving women? Jung taught that each of us is feminine (anima), and masculine (animus). Women have a greater portion of anima and men have a greater measure of animus. Until recently, to be a woman has meant to embrace feminine characteristics and deny masculine characteristics. Likewise with men. To be a man has meant to embrace the masculine characteristics and deny the feminine characteristics.
We have entered a new age, the age of integration of anima and animus, feminine and masculine, within each one of us. God has put the urge into our hearts for each woman to integrate her masculine qualities and each man to integrate his feminine qualities.
What are the feminine qualities? Some of them are nurturing, sensitivity, spiritual awareness, unconditional love, taking care of the home, raising children, nurse others to health, teach, be beautiful, and be supportive. What are the masculine qualities? A partial list includes not showing pain, acting strong, keeping commitments, bringing home the pay check, punishing the children, taking the boys fishing, never crying, being the leader, being adventurous, performing physically difficult tasks, and working with math and science.
Jung said that we have moved from the age of three to the age of four, into the age of integration, the age of fulfillment. The problem is that the old age seldom easily gives way to the new age. It resists and tries to obstruct the new age. When a woman feels the urge to manifest her masculine qualities, her animus, society admonishes her, "be a woman." Likewise for the man. When a man feels the urge to give play to his anima, society blares back, "be a man!"
That leaves women and men in a pickle. The woman who experiences society's stonewalling determines to be true to her self and her God, over reacts in manifesting her masculine qualities, leading her to believe that she is a man. Likewise with the man. He feels society stonewalling his urge to manifest his feminine aspect, over reacts and believes that he is a woman.
A 12 year old boy, ChristianU2uber, provoked a maelstrom of denunciations for standing up for traditional marriage and saying marriage between like sexes is wrong. Carrie Prejean settled for runner up by standing for traditional marriage in the Miss USA contest. They are right and courageous. Marriage between like sexes is wrong and traditional marriage is right. Yet we need to go one step further and stand for the spirit of the times, to become integrated, whole people.
Since we know that loving the like sex is unnatural and will lead to extinction if we all did that, we know that this movement will fail. But we must not fail to integrate our anima and animus in each of us, to become whole persons, whole men and whole women. That movement must and will succeed.
Wednesday, November 15, 2023
God Sometimes Tricks Us
Yes. Sometimes God tricks us. Always for our own good. And usually to get us to do something we don't want to do.
For example, the United States did not want to enter World War II against Hitler's Germany and Mussolini's Italy. In fact, the foremost people in the USA staunchly stood for pacifism, including the almost god-like Charles Lindbergh, the hero who first flew across the Atlantic solo. Let anyone speak out against pacifism in the 1930s and they would receive the kind of scathing condemnation that Carrie Prajean, Miss California in the Miss USA contest, got from Perez Hilton and his buddies for her stand supporting traditional marriage. Politically incorrect, to say the least.
Yet God had another idea. He wanted the USA to enter World War II and help defeat fascist Germany. So, how did he do that? He helped Japan sneak attack the USA at Pearl Harbor. What! God helped a fascist nation deal a terrible blow to the USA! Yes. Because we held the unjust, cowardly, and self-seeking view that Hitler could have Europe for all we care. We have our security and comfort separated by 3000 miles of Atlantic ocean. Let's live by George Washington's admonishment to keep out of entanglements with Europe.
We should have detected the huge Japanese fleet approaching Hawaii. We didn't. The US military commanders at Hawaii should have received telegrams informing them of the likelihood of a Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor. They didn't. The newly installed radar should have alerted the US forces at Pearl Harbor of the approaching squadrons of Japanese dive bombers and fighters. It didn't. Even the detection and destruction of miniature submarines in Pearl Harbor didn't put the US forces on full alert. It just seemed destined that the US Navy, Army Air Force, Army, and Marines would be caught relaxing that beautiful Sunday morning on December 7, 1941.
The combination of oversights and mistaken judgments seemed so unbelievable that many scholars of American history believe Franklin Roosevelt allowed Japan to successfully attack the US forces at Pearl Harbor to give the USA reason to fully enter World War II. That is wrong, but not far from the truth. God allowed Japan to attack the USA to bring us into WWII. And thank God He did! The USA, teamed with Great Britain, the Soviet Union, Australia, New Zealand and the underground resistance of conquered nations to bring down the satanic ideology of fascism advanced by Germany, Italy, and Japan. Could you image the world today if the USA had stood on the sidelines allowing the fascist forces to conquer the world? That is too bleak to imagine. For one thing, there would be no Jews, homosexuals, lesbians, gypsies, or, for that matter, anyone other than Aryans living on the earth. That is, unless Japan and Italy could defeat Hitler in a battle of the victors.
Then came another of God's tricks! God needed the USA involved in the Middle East to help free it from feudalism and introduce democracy. There is no way in hell that the United States would do that unless we saw it as in our national interest to do so. We are reluctant warriors for any cause other than that which directly affects us. Maybe that is a good thing. At least it keeps us from jumping into every holy crusade that pops up from time to time. But God wanted the USA to get involved more than holding a few peace retreats at Camp David, sending military hardware to our player of the day in the Middle East, supporting Israel with money and weapons, and talking peace at the UN. So God tricked us.
We believed that Saddam worked to develop weapons of mass destruction. By "we", I mean the entire world intelligence community. Saddam may have planted that idea to protect his brutal dictatorship, hoping that would intimidate the USA and others. We got fooled. We believed that Saddam had been close to producing nuclear and biological weapons and, for that reason, the United States and Great Britain, with a small coalition of nations supporting, invaded Iraq in 2003.
Why did God trick us? Because he needed the terrorist dictator Saddam Hussein removed and a democratic Islamic republic established in fact, not just in name. He needed the first successful Islamic democracy in the Middle East, a democracy rich in oil, water, and educated people. With Iraq a thriving Islamic democracy, other nations in the Middle East would topple the same way one after another. And guess what? We won the war in Iraq! Has anyone noticed? Of course, much remains for the Iraqi people to work out. But once people taste freedom and equality, it is impossible to give it up.
Within a few years, Iraq will be a relatively stable, prosperous democracy shaped by Islamic values. Iran's religious fanatical leaders will fall to a popular uprising. Saudi Arabia will experience a revolution in which the king and prince oligarchy will turn upside down. And, most importantly, Israel will be at peace with her neighbors, cooperating in the development of the Middle East rather than continually struggling to survive surrounded by deadly enemies.
The next generation will have a much kinder view of the presidency of George W. Bush. He will be remembered as the one who toppled the Berlin Wall of Islamic despotism. Even though God tricked him into doing it.
For example, the United States did not want to enter World War II against Hitler's Germany and Mussolini's Italy. In fact, the foremost people in the USA staunchly stood for pacifism, including the almost god-like Charles Lindbergh, the hero who first flew across the Atlantic solo. Let anyone speak out against pacifism in the 1930s and they would receive the kind of scathing condemnation that Carrie Prajean, Miss California in the Miss USA contest, got from Perez Hilton and his buddies for her stand supporting traditional marriage. Politically incorrect, to say the least.
Yet God had another idea. He wanted the USA to enter World War II and help defeat fascist Germany. So, how did he do that? He helped Japan sneak attack the USA at Pearl Harbor. What! God helped a fascist nation deal a terrible blow to the USA! Yes. Because we held the unjust, cowardly, and self-seeking view that Hitler could have Europe for all we care. We have our security and comfort separated by 3000 miles of Atlantic ocean. Let's live by George Washington's admonishment to keep out of entanglements with Europe.
We should have detected the huge Japanese fleet approaching Hawaii. We didn't. The US military commanders at Hawaii should have received telegrams informing them of the likelihood of a Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor. They didn't. The newly installed radar should have alerted the US forces at Pearl Harbor of the approaching squadrons of Japanese dive bombers and fighters. It didn't. Even the detection and destruction of miniature submarines in Pearl Harbor didn't put the US forces on full alert. It just seemed destined that the US Navy, Army Air Force, Army, and Marines would be caught relaxing that beautiful Sunday morning on December 7, 1941.
The combination of oversights and mistaken judgments seemed so unbelievable that many scholars of American history believe Franklin Roosevelt allowed Japan to successfully attack the US forces at Pearl Harbor to give the USA reason to fully enter World War II. That is wrong, but not far from the truth. God allowed Japan to attack the USA to bring us into WWII. And thank God He did! The USA, teamed with Great Britain, the Soviet Union, Australia, New Zealand and the underground resistance of conquered nations to bring down the satanic ideology of fascism advanced by Germany, Italy, and Japan. Could you image the world today if the USA had stood on the sidelines allowing the fascist forces to conquer the world? That is too bleak to imagine. For one thing, there would be no Jews, homosexuals, lesbians, gypsies, or, for that matter, anyone other than Aryans living on the earth. That is, unless Japan and Italy could defeat Hitler in a battle of the victors.
Then came another of God's tricks! God needed the USA involved in the Middle East to help free it from feudalism and introduce democracy. There is no way in hell that the United States would do that unless we saw it as in our national interest to do so. We are reluctant warriors for any cause other than that which directly affects us. Maybe that is a good thing. At least it keeps us from jumping into every holy crusade that pops up from time to time. But God wanted the USA to get involved more than holding a few peace retreats at Camp David, sending military hardware to our player of the day in the Middle East, supporting Israel with money and weapons, and talking peace at the UN. So God tricked us.
We believed that Saddam worked to develop weapons of mass destruction. By "we", I mean the entire world intelligence community. Saddam may have planted that idea to protect his brutal dictatorship, hoping that would intimidate the USA and others. We got fooled. We believed that Saddam had been close to producing nuclear and biological weapons and, for that reason, the United States and Great Britain, with a small coalition of nations supporting, invaded Iraq in 2003.
Why did God trick us? Because he needed the terrorist dictator Saddam Hussein removed and a democratic Islamic republic established in fact, not just in name. He needed the first successful Islamic democracy in the Middle East, a democracy rich in oil, water, and educated people. With Iraq a thriving Islamic democracy, other nations in the Middle East would topple the same way one after another. And guess what? We won the war in Iraq! Has anyone noticed? Of course, much remains for the Iraqi people to work out. But once people taste freedom and equality, it is impossible to give it up.
Within a few years, Iraq will be a relatively stable, prosperous democracy shaped by Islamic values. Iran's religious fanatical leaders will fall to a popular uprising. Saudi Arabia will experience a revolution in which the king and prince oligarchy will turn upside down. And, most importantly, Israel will be at peace with her neighbors, cooperating in the development of the Middle East rather than continually struggling to survive surrounded by deadly enemies.
The next generation will have a much kinder view of the presidency of George W. Bush. He will be remembered as the one who toppled the Berlin Wall of Islamic despotism. Even though God tricked him into doing it.
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